Du wirst keinen Ehemann nehmen! Respekt, die Bedeutung der Toten und Fluchtheirat bei den Sinti Estraixaria
(Forum Europäische Ethnologie 8)
Berlin: Lit Verlag 2006
270 pp., Euro 19.90; ISBN 3-8258-816-9
Keywords: Sinti, gypsies, escapist marriage, elopement and marriage, marriage, respect and elopement, dead and respect, ancestors

You will not take a husband! Respect, the importance of the dead, and escapist marriage among the Sinti Estraixaria
Tauber asks why and how the Sinti of Central Europe were able to survive as a distinct group in the face of nation-state dynamics. This ethnography is on Sinti living in the Italian Tyrolian province of Alto Adige and Trentino. The author has married one of them and has lived with these Sinti since the late 1990s. Focusing on the Sinti cultural complexes of respect and the elopement form of marriage the author introduces the Sinti in Southern Tyrolia, research on gypsies in general, then the notion of respect (respect of men, respect of women) and the inclusion and position of the dead in this culture. Other chapters discuss the elopement, and more generally, an "anthropology of flight", then, in connection with the elopement custom, aspects of sexuality, law, the mediation of the dead, and the restoration of respect after the elopement, and finally the elopement custom is described as a consequence of the respect for the dead.